Today when he called I decided to play along with being mysterious and not remind him about the boating class. I never was very good about adding mystery to my life, but maybe D16 did it for me. Matilda
Matilda, Your daughter was the catalyst, but you accepted the opportunity to remain mysterious. Again, a significant change in pattern for you. It was a tentative step, but new habits are tentative.
Good for you for taking a risk. I hope you see something positive in the R (or even more importantly, yourself), from this experiment.
It is difficult to know what to do with invitations. We're supposed to be detaching, yet staying connected to positives. How badly does he want you to go? If he really wants you to go, perhaps you can set some limits around how long you stay--make an appearance out of courtesy. Then, to set limits, you can leave when you find yourself getting really annoyed with the crowd, unless you find yourself enjoying the crowd more than you realized.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
