steph,
something you are doing is working.....do not listen to w...and for heavens sake when you get an invitation....don't question her motives...ah but actually this time it bumped up the anti from chritmas eve to christmas day right?

stay in the place you are now...keep the mindframe you have had....let w do as she will...accept invitations if you wish but do not question the motives of them...good that you don't always answer the phone...good that she is calling so much....
things are happening...but it is best if you just sit back and keep the stance you have....
LL