H just called (away on business, but due back tomorrow) and asked if I wanted to go to a local bar to watch the game. Now that he asked me to go with him I don't need to go. I wonder by not going if it will show him I trust him and give him some feeling of space OR will he think I'm not interested in being with him??? (I would much rather watch the game at home instead of at a smokey bar, but H would rather be with a crowd).

One of my recent projects was to sign up for a boating course at our local community college. Since H bought a boat (after he decided he didn't want a D), I decided I wanted to become an active participant and help make this something that will bring us closer. Class is Friday nights. H called while I was there and talked to D16. Apparently she just told him I was "out". Today when he called I decided to play along with being mysterious and not remind him about the boating class. I never was very good about adding mystery to my life, but maybe D16 did it for me.
Matilda