The MLC WAS is one messed up creature that can not be predicted. They can't even predict what they will do. They are running as fast as they can with their eyes closed. Considering all of this, you are doing fine. The stage you have reached concerning her is very healthy. First we want them so bad and then we get to a point that we can't stand them. Finally we graduate to the middle, where we belong. Continue to handle the sitch just as you have and keep an even keel. I let my WAW control my behavior and that extended our recovery. I still do occassionally and it pisses me off.

It will take a long time to feel "stress free" again. What seems to happen is progress is slow much like ripples leaving an otherwise calm pond. Things get better almost linearly (is that a word?)instead of all at once. I still want to feel really good someday but I know that is still a future event. Roll with the punches and try not to throw any back ( I did ). Try to not hate her for what she has done. I fight this one everyday. Take care of yourself both emotionally and physically. Remember this. Be attractive and desireable but not just for her. Assume that it may be over and be prepared to give your love to someone new. It isn't a "plan" it is a "mindset" that just may happen. I don't walk on eggshells anymore and I never will again. Either she loves me and wants to be with me or she doesn't, I will survive and be happy either way. It is hard to get to that place but it sure is tranquil. You are on your way but stay balanced as you go.

A good friend of mine told me to get my strength back or I wouldn't make it. I did and you are on the same path I was. "No matter how beautiful the woman, some man somewhere is tired of her crap". MLC WAW version "No matter how much you love the woman, at some point you may get tired of her crap". Don't give up but don't be "abused either.

I keep meaning to e-mail Michelle my success story but I don't have the time. This board will help you succeed if there is any chance so keep heading what the wise ones say. One more thing, "She will some day come around but will you be there when she does?"

TBONE