C wants to talk about how our parents got through conflicts...they are still together, wonders if we can learn from them...I think this is futile! MIL (I love her dearly, she loves me, and I still go over there for supper about twice a month...without wife) told my wife, when this all began that she had also once felt like she does, but had nowhere else to go...my wife (and I dont blame her) does NOT want to settle on our marriage simply because she has nowhere else to go! Plus, I am a different person than my parents, my wife different from her's. So what's the use.
If I dont say a word...she will NOT ask! So do I say something like: Did you want to come to C on Monday...I will go either way!
She wil answer: Do you want me to come?
I answer ???? NO? Only if YOU want to? Do you want to come? It's a merry-go-round!
I (at this moment, this WILL probably change) do NOT want her there. But do I risk her never coming back simply because I am angry with her and disappointed, and hurt?
Not three weeks ago we were away for the weekend with my family, and had a grand old time...why is it that now, I want nothing to do with her?
