Quoting lostlove: steph, has your c seen you on an individual basis before?? if not s/he may not be open to talking to you alone as it effects the way s/he can treat you as a couple... some will some will not...
... does she go to appease you the ole "I'm doing this just so we can get along to care for our children"
I started seeing our C ALONE in the beginning, then invited my wife...she is, in short, MY C. My wife comes at my request usually. AND YES, she is coming to "appease" me at the moment...to make the "transition" easier, to learn how we can GET ALONG in our NEW capacities!
I usually dont have to remind her, we go together...but I sometimes ask her if she still wants to come and tell her she does not need to. She usuallyb says she "wants to".
