Ok, rough evening last night! I had d for the evening...as always when she is spending the week at mom's. Called my wife to check on d's needs for the week (bathing suit for the sitter ?, Clothes to pack for the rest of the week...daughter stuff.) Wife was not answering her cell. No biggy, I leave a message. Go to friends' place for a visit with d, before leaving (bringing d back to Mom's), I call again to see if she is there: No answer. Leave another message! It is d's bedtime soon, what shoudl I do? I told her where I was and that I would soon be leaving and if I got no word from her would simply bring d back home with me, give her a bath and put her to bed if still no word came! 30 seconds later, wife calls atr friends, is frantic, saying she is on her way home, that I should bring d to HER place. So I do.

Once there, I make a very calm and polite statement: "In the future, just let me know if you will be out later than usual so I know what to do with d...didn't want to show up at your place, you not being there, and wait in the car for you, not knowing at what time you would be coming back." She freaked! Says "I dont need to report to you, you weighed me down with your messages, I was planning on being home in time!" WELL, I had no way of knowing that! Told her I couldn`t care less where she was, what she was doing, who she was with, just that I could NOT bring daughter home to her if she wasn`t there. She said she called my place but I wasn`t there, I said I checked my messages before calling her...she didn`t leave a message. WHY? She couldn`t even tell me! So I left, again removing myself from the drama!

She called back later in the evening, I acted as if (all was right). She seemed to feel sorry enough, but I couldn`t care less. Her over reaction proves again that all is not right with her. I do not want to be involved in all this! She seemed down and all, but again, she just frustrated me with all this drama! I cant even state a concern without creating a huge fight??? I was simply stating a concern and was very carefull about HOW I stated it! I'll be damned if I cant even tell her how I sometimes feel!

So, Santa parade on Sat 30th and I dont have d, but asked wife if I could spend the evening with her. She said sure "Do you mind if I come too?" I told her that was up to her! I am not even gonna invite her, she is welcomed but I will plan no more "family time", she can plan and invite me...but other then that ???

Gotta go, work!

Steph