it is strange how we suddenly become "alien" ourselves isn't it. know that there is no such thing as an effortless r. every woman will have "traits" or "quirks" or "things" that you don't like. walking on eggshells is no fun, don't concern yourself right now with the r what is was is or what it may be... that is not something you can do anything about right now...right now be you and be happy being you... when and if w decides she wants to work on the m then you will have to make the decision if you would like to or not. you may, you may not, don't worry about or think about it til you are faced with that descision, unless of course you know for certain that you truly don't want her. LL
