I just gained some realization of my own, perhaps independant of the specific point you were trying to make, about how my sexuality could be overwhelming to her, and that letting her take control and see where it goes might be something worth exploring. I can see how that me leading EVERY TIME could cause her to never face her own sexuality, or in a more cynical POV, provide a back door for her to not have to face her sexuality. I can see how her not having to make decisions about what happens next could stifle her sexuality before it has a chance to get started. Kind of parallel to the notion that when you have to work at something, it gives it more personal value in the end.
I have to revamp. I think you nailed it on the head. I got to thinking about how all this came about, and him going passive on me, at first, really ticked me off. It was frustrating to me. I was in a position of having to either roll over and go to sleep or ask for what I wanted... and I wasn't really comfortable doing either.
So I found another way, and boy what a discovery. And yes, it did worlds of good for me exploring my own sexuality and becoming way more confident in myself as a woman and sex partner. As I thought about it more, yes, my xH's sexuality was always overwhelming to me, for it always felt controlling to me.
I think you should expand on your thoughts, if you can.
I'm really interested to hear what HoneyPot might be discovering. ... where is that girl?
