Do you do things together with your D? I have found that our S is a major factor in the fact that H is still around at some level even though he doesn't live here anymore. Our often limited conversations are always pleasant when we are talking about S. The little things that S does make us laugh and that's what we talk about most of the time...keeps the talk away from R and everything is light and sometimes fun. S really is what is keeping us connected. I hope you are able to talk about your D in the same way.
The first years with your child are so important...I am making a real effort to enjoy this time interacting with S and having fun as I don't want to look back and not be able to remember anything because of what me and H were going through.
Don't know if this is the right thing or not but I have read somewhere (? DR?) that one W wrote a letter to H so she could get things out in the open that he would not listen to her say. I have mixed feelings about letters but in the right circumstances it could be useful. Only you would know the answer to that one. Keep the PMA and a good atmosphere when you see H; that is the key.
Let us know what happens when H comes back from trip. Keeping you in my thoughts.
Me 36 ring on H 41 ring off S2 Together since 1992 Married: 2000 Bomb Aug 06 H moved out Oct 06 (and straight in with OW)
