Quote: I cant simply accept that I will be the one to make every effort, be conscious of HER needs and wants and sometimes simply forgo mine!
you won't be the sole one making the effort, things will change as you step out of the sit, just as you are realizing that she does not (or rather is not responsible for your happiness) "make" you happy, you cannot make her happy, if she is down or bothered or upset (like after the skating) it is not for you to get involved in... it is currently her issue to deal with.
and by focussing less and less on her you can start to focus more on you and your own needs. LL
