I had already moved on when my W started making suggestions of reconciliation about a month or so ago. This was the first time in over a year that she even hinted she was interested in that. Before that, the only discussion we ever had were over the kids and finances. I'm still not sure what her motivation was for her "supposed" change of hart, but whatever it was, it was not an honest attempt. The more I analyze the after affects of it, the more I come to one conclusion... CONTROL!
She had a quick change of hart when I said I would willing if she would agree to counseling. All through our separation and estrangement, the thought of counseling to her was like holy water to a vampire. She absolutely recoiled at the thought of it. She didn't want to believe she had any issues contributing to the breakup and she certainly didn't want to be called out on the OM. She won't give him up or her self righteousness and she knows this is a boundary I'm not willing to compromise.
It brought back some painful memories for me, but is was short lived. My PMA is high once again and I intend on keeping it there. I do not hold any grudges, I forgive her, myself, and wish her luck.
OK now, for the really important stuff... Where are all the good superbowl parties and what are you making to eat? I love Superbowl weekend, it's almost equal to Thanksgiving as far as food, family, friends and pageantry!
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
