I dont think your H was cheerful becuase he picked on you. He was cheerful because dinner was good, and you didnt personalize. If you didnt say anything, he has no idea. I doubt he would even remember saying it. I also like that you just ignored it. it appeared that you didnt personalize it, but you still did. let it go, or make a boundary.
come up with a few simple replies that will cover all of his crappy behavior. When we act like jerk's doesnt mean you have to personalize it.
Enforce your boundaries for being treated well.
Mojo's was funny but you cant always be witty, especially when its chronic. I think I would die of laughter and have to attack a woman with hugs and kisses who could come up with that on the spur of the moment.
Mrs Nop mentioned in HD's thread she had to say, paraphrased " Im tired, Im at my limit. I cant take anymore." in regard to some undefined issue.
telling me I am not a good conversationalist reply, 'neither are you, your always picking on me. Im sick of it.' (silence) repeat as necessary.
'You can say thank you for dinner, you can ask about my day, you can talk about work, or you can be quiet, but your not picking on me.
'whats wrong with you, didnt your mother teach you to not talk unless you have something nice to say' (double meaning in that one)
'Listen im tired of your negativity drip drip dripping on me. Go find something productive to do and leave me alone untill you can be nice to me.
being able to humorously redirect comes from confidance inside. eventually enough is enough, and you have to smack em. You would actually be a good conversationalist at that point.
Conversation is just listening, taking what they say, turning it around and throwing it back.
Can you find anything about your H that you find attractive, that revs you up (and you can tell him about) or can you only find your desire by fantasizing, or when he has one foot out the door? Im not being sarcastic, Im sincerely curious.
