It makes perfect sens, but I do think you must be one of the most wonderfull people in the world. Because you let go of your husband comletely and focused on your children solely! I thought I was doing the same thing, but when I read your post, I realized that I was using ANY family time as an opotunity to get closer to my wife, and make an impression, and to state my case. Of course I enjoy the time with my daughter...always have...even when we were together, I was always the one to do things with my daughter...but I always resented my wife for not wanting to do things as a family. Actualy, that was a great part of our break up...I wanted to ALWAYS do things as a family, she didn't. Now, I HAVE to simply let go, give her what she has asked for, continue to do things with my daughter (as I have always done) and let go of wife AND daughter when it is not my time! It hurts as hell. It is sooo quiet here when my daughter is away at mom's, to quiet, not natural, not supposed to be. But my chalenge is to make the best of the time I DO have with her, and let my wife live as she has decided to do!

The scariest part is that I KNOW that I will be fine, I will be happy. If not with my wife, with someone else. But I would so much rather that it be with my wife! But that is no longer my decision.

Letting go. Feel at peace. This is my last evening with my daughter for a week. I have had a great week. No regrets. I have created new wonderfull memories for her and me. I love my daughter, she loves me. I will ALWAYS be there for her. Hope my wife is up to it as well. But I have to give her a chance to be now. I will NOT go skating, although it is what I would LOVE to do!

My daughter has been asking for her mother. Not crying or anything, just a bit sad. I have a hard time with that, but I think I have coped quite well: I give her a hug, tell her I love her, tell her her mother loves her, and say that she will soon see her mother. She asked if we would go skating soon (incredible, what two year olds remember and process...cant under- estimate them ). I told her I would not be there, but that she and Mom would be spendoing some special time just the two of them.

LL, you have inspired me to be the best damn father I can. Not super Dad. Dad ready to give up time with her for her sake! It hurts but feels good at the same time! Thank you LL, you have given me clarity, inner peace, and the strength to live, be happy no matter what. And most important of all, let my wife live and be happy, with or without me.

Steph