Quoting KAW: Steph, in order to make this work, you have to be there for your D only. The reason you are on the ice should be because it makes you and your D happy. Leave whether W is or isn't on the ice totally out of the equation of sharing you happiness with D and therefore it s not your concern.
This, for this coming Saturday's skating lesson, is my dilema! I DO so much enjoy being there and so does my daughter, but I also want to send a message. Not in a bad way, not an ultimatum, simply that I will no longer always be available, that I will do things for me, that I will not intrude on wife/daughter time. In short, that I am giving her what she has asked for! It still sounds like a game, but Saturday morning is my wife's time with d, and yes she has expressed surprise at my desire to be there, and on the ice, every single time, but I want not only send a message, but begin TRUELY doing things for me, on my time. Torn between wanting to share every single Saturday morning with my daughter...like I thought I would be when she was concieved, born and the idea, of distancing myself, giving wife what she has asked for, and start a new life for me. In short, I will start living like someone that is seperated, still in love and still dedicated to making this marriage work, but not WITH his wife.
and the idea, of distancing myself, giving wife what she has asked for, and start a new life for me. In short, I will start living like someone that is seperated, still in love and still dedicated to making this marriage work, but not WITH his wife. 
