LL is right,
There is always risk of the outcome not turning out as intended, but the potential for a big turn around is also there. If she starts to feeling she misses you it can open her mind to much more, but first she has to MISS you, which means making yourself scarcer.
Now what was I going to say before ... oh yeah ... Sometimes the way we try to find a better way to interact in a relationship seems like playing a game, because there is an equal chance of find what work may not. It is not a game Steph. It is only trial and error. Unforunately no one has found a better way to find the answers.
Quote: I WANT to be there, but NOT in my wife's way and NOT the one that does everything (i.e. be the only one on the ice).
Steph, in order to make this work, you have to be there for your D only. The reason you are on the ice should be because it makes you and your D happy. Leave whether W is or isn't on the ice totally out of the equation of sharing you happiness with D and therefore it s not your concern. It is your W's issue to deal with and you have no say over it nor should it matter to you. Working on this attitude is key to demonstrating to her how you are just as content to enjoy what you are doing whether she is participating or not.
