how to keep calm and patient??

[ALH3247]

Inpain .. listen, you need to back off as soon as possible b/c you will drive him away.

Take it from me, my H left me in June for 5 days, came back and didn't want a D, things were great but I was too emotional expected things to just be back to normal. I didn't even dream that H was going thru his own emotional stuff. Then, 2 months later, H left again - this time moved out.

He said things got too difficult. He thought, forget this - why would I want to come back to all of this emotional mess, unhappiness, etc... BUT .. finally H is making his way back home, but we are taking it REAL SLOW. It is tough b/c I want to ML and everything. H doesn't say ILY each time we talk - only once in awhile.

My point is .. let him set the pace. It is normal for him not to want to ML or be affectionate at first. He is testing the waters to see if this is the right decision, so this is your time to shine. You need to be upbeat, positive, and happy. I read today, what makes a man attractive to a woman is a woman that can make him feel youthful (doesn't mean date someone half his age), wants a woman that is sexy (not just looks but attitude - one that has confidence and feels good about herself), and wants a woman that is playful (happy, sense of humor, etc.) You need to be that woman. Get yourself together!

I hope this helps