Ahh HA!

I found your new thread, Steph. Been thinking that you were still 'out sick'.

I've got to agree with what a lot of people have already said. Your wife has got to learn how to be a mom on her terms. And even though you want the best for your child, and are afraid that she will miss out, I believe that it's really not in your hands.

I'm afraid, from what your wife has said, that you are an easy target for her to blame when things don't go perfect between her and your daughter. If you take yourself out of the equation, your wife might begin to gain clarity into how her actions impact her relationship with DD.

And I have to agree...when it gets to the point where making things easier for Spouse means making things harder for you, then it's time to re-evaluate.

The sooner you stop making the situation easier, the sooner they have to face reality and 'grow up'.

My mom told me that the worst thing you can do to someone is to give them what they say they want.

Perhaps it's time for you to give your wife what she says she wants?


PIB