Quote: Thing is, my wife will see it as a BAD thing...my not showing up. Like I'm trying to atangonize her, or I am being childish and resentfull "If she shows up all hungover and unable to skate...then I wont even bother showing up" type thing.
When in doubt, ask! Approach her politely as if you have something else you are considering tending to and since it is her weekend you were wondering if it is OK if they go skating without you. Steph, you say the skating time is an agreed upon arrangement, yet she has ask to bow out herself so the precedent is set. Even, if she doesn't agree and states that she wants you there and you choose to go skating, you have placed the notion in her head that you are no longer seeking to plan all your time around her. It will have a similar impact as actually doing your own thing, yet allow you to still skate with D if that is your wish.
