We had spoken about this before we registered for the skating lessons and had agrred that we could ALL be present. So I sort of took it as an open invitatin. PLus, these activities are usually my idea. I talked to my wife before registering d for lessons and she said it could be fun. Since then, it seems she does NOT enjoy it as much as I. She would probably prefer I be on the ice! But since this Saturday is HER time, she is also responsible for taking d to lessons. This brings up another dilema: my wife may very well NOT go to skating lessons with d and stay home watching videos. Although I also do this sometimes, I know my daughter LOVES her skating lessons (she gets SOOOO excited when the time comes) and feel very badly when my wife skips them...not because daughter doesn't want to go, but because she doesn't. I would be more than willing to let my wife stay at home and bring daughter myself, but that would be imposing on Mommy/daughter time. And yes, I know that it is my wife's choice to go or not, but if we were together, I would bring daughter every week, now she may miss out!
LL, did not want to sound angry, I think I was only trying to state a fact: My wife has had a lot of help and has spent very few weekends alone with our daughter. She is not the type to organize many activities and has, in the resent past, depended on me to do so. She has enjoyed this time together, but has never had to go at it alone (i.e. skating lessons). I have, and I am NOT complaining about it, I enjoy it, but I dont think my wife realizes how much work it is...if it is too much work, she will simply forgo the skating lessons. And that would be a shame..cause my daughter really does enjoy it! So I am stuck between wanting to give all I can to my daughter, and leaving it up to mom.
That still sounds bad doesn't it? Its not meant to be. I am having a hard time choosing the proper wording here to express what it is I feel!
