I've also noticed that much of this has been on my terms and not hers. Well, perhaps not my terms, but I have initiated much of the contact, the time spent together. She has accepted many times and has said she enjoys the time spent together, but now I DO believe I must let HER take the initiative...if she chooses to! This is a scary prospect! My only hope is that she will miss the time together and come around, but I have NO control over that any more.

Oddly enough, I feel a certain level of peace I haven`t felt in a long time . I did feel this a couple of months ago...that`s when she started opening up again, but I rushed things, and dictated some of the terms! Time to try a new approach and try NOT to backslide this time!

Question: Last weekend's skating lesson was rough (go back and read...wife was hungover and not pleasant and not into it). She said to me on Monday night "Do we really all have to be on the ice?" I told her it would be nice...but I did not want to force her into anything. BUT, this Saturday, she has our daughter and therefor is in charge of taking her to the skating lessons. I feel like doing one of many things
  • Going to the lessons...cause I want to for my daughter and bringing my skates and being on the ice...as I told my wife I wanted to!
  • Waiting to see if my wife asks me to come
  • Not going at all and letting my wife deal with single motherhhod...since I DO believe I have been making life a tad easy for her by ALWAYS being there when it came to our daughter
. I am torn between REALLY letting her go, letting her live the REAL single mother life...like I have never done since the seperation (she may very well view this in a confrontational light) and the fact that I truely ENJOY these moments with my daughter! I WANT to go skating with her!

Anyways, I hope all are doing well...much traffic on the BB, I'll try and catch up to you guys!

Steph