Sometimes work just gets in the way of posting in a timely fashion. You manage to post again while I was still replying to your earlier one and in the more recent one you wrote:

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And last, I know, from my wife's words last night, that what she does fear is a reconciliation and being exactly back where we were a year ago: unhappy, frightened, confused and not wanting to hurt me again. So in order to avoid that...she figures she'll avoid me! She will not ALLOW herself to have any feelings for me out of fear of being right back where all this started!


Steph,
Now that you have heard it voiced from her, please go back to my 11/8 post here and re-read.