steph, it is good that w is going to c with you, perhaps how you should look at it is, the two of you are there to learn to have a good r, in whatever form that takes, to better raise your d together. learn to just be wifes friend, i know it is not what you want, but the sooner you accept that you may not be with her as h and w, the sooner she may realize that that is what she wants (to be your w) sometimes space just isn't enough,they need to no longer see that look in your eye that you are still holding onto them... only then can the new r begin and after all it is a new r that you want with w right. hang in there, i know the words hurt but they are just words, we have all heard them in different forms. LL
