Well, it was a rough session as I had predicted, but it seems ok now. My wife again said there was NO chance of us ever being together ever again..and that is a tough pill to swallow, so I wont. She knows I love her and I said in C that this (the marriage) and she were too important to me for me to just give up. I wont! If she wants out, she'll have to file the papers before I even start to believe that it is over. She agreed to another session two weeks from now and the therapist is actualy leaning towards fixing this R. My wife does not like it but is going along with it. So its a wait and see thing. It will take time if it is going to work, so I still have to be patient! If she keeps coming to the sessions, I still have hope!
One thing though, we got into the old pains a bit too much for both our likings! I know what I did wrong and she knows what she did wrong so now I would like to concentrate on what we did right! Get some of those feelings again, the good memories, the good times, and see where we go from there! My wife and I agreed to tell the therapist that we dont really want to talk about our past "failures" towards each other, but then, what does my wife want to talk about if she is so dead against fixing things?
BTW, she still wants to spend time together, just a little breather in the meantime!
No clue if anyone has any idea! Other than giving her the space she is asking for!
