Here is what I think will be brought up in C tonight:
My wife has expressed fear of my continued attachment (i.e. strong emptions toward her) since her B-day. She says she was gratefull, but only someone with great love would do such a thing...I said "well I wouldn't do it for someone I didn't like!"
She feels that I judge her badly as a mother
She feels guilty. In her words: I feel like our daughter hates me for not being there
She fears that ALL the time we have spent together in the last month 1/2 was a bad idea...we got used to the other being there AND WORSE, our daughter got used to it as well. We are providing soemthing she may not always have!
The last one scares the crap out of me cause my wife wants to forsake all the time we spent together just to get our daughter used to the fact that mom and dad may not always be together!!! In other words, she does not want to spend ANY time together.
I called her last night to ask her to come for supper before the C session and told her I would leave her alone with our daughter and take the dog out. I told her our daughter had asked for her all weekend and was quite sad. She took this as a judgement of her mothering abilities, said it was my problem. I dont believe it is mine since I am not the one who wanted this seperation. I know it may be my prblem now, but I have a very hard time dealing with this. If it was up to me, our daughter would have both parents around!
