New plan...many people have tod me not to be so available to my wife..and I think I enjoy...no, make that depend on, her company too much This morning, at skating lessons, my wife was EXTREMELY hung over from her little party last night. She did make the effort (put her alarm clock on, on a Saturday morning when she did not have our daughter) to show up and the day before she told me she wanted to come, that our daughter WAS part of her plans...but this morning, my wife was useless! Tired, hung over, feeling sick. She did not even bring her skates, she sat in the stands watching and left as soon as the lesson was over...she had actually said, right before we hit the ice, that she was NOT going to stay, that she felt too sick... but she did stay, made the effort, but she wasn't there in spirit, only in flesh. I could have done without, and my daughter as well. She was distant, distracted and could not give our daughter even two minutes of concentration. A two year old feels it. When we stopped by her place later to pick up my brother in law (going for a coffee), My daughter wouldn't even give her mother a hug . Later, once back home, she asked for her mother all night. Broke my heart, and I dont need it!

When my wife has our daughter, I am ALWAYS there to help out. Did so on Tuesday last, when I ran from my place, to the pharmacy, to my wife's, cause our daughter had a cough. My wife would NOT do that for me. I am not complaining, I did it for my daughter ,ost of all, just saying that perhaps I am there too much for her (my wife)! When I have our daughter, my wife sees her almost every day. And YES I enjoy it, but you see, she is having the best of both worlds at the moment (OK not the best, this is not something she wanted) But she gets to see her daughter and get help from her husband and live seperately and go out and neglect US!

I wasn't about to bitch at her today, and probably wont ever bring it up (at least for a long time) but tomorow, going to the museum with my daughter, I would normaly call my wife and invite her. Sometimes she comes, sometimes not. But I think I need a break. I will not call to invite her. Problem is, I would LOVE to spend time with my wife and daughter.

Is this any good ? Am I asking for trouble? Family time has been what is working lately. Am I jeopordizing that family time ? Should I jeopordize that ? I almost feel like going slightly dark, even though I am not a big fan of that particular technique.

My wife's aloofness and distance today really affected me. It WAS due to her night before, but she had promessed to be there for our daughter, was there, but wasn't at the same time.

Steph