Steph, sounds like your w is afaid of it not working, my h said that in c once, that he does not want ot hurt me if the feelings are not there, so how does that fear get broken, how do we get comfortable with them again? You have been doing good, letting her call some of the shots. But maybe backing off alittle might help,but do it slow. I am finding the opposite lately, by asking h if he wants me involved in his move, and funny thing is he does, try something and watch for a reaction, positive or negative and decide from that what you need to change. Why does all this have to be so hard? Because good things are not easy. Good luck Sue
