don't get it! Help!

[nickyf]

Kissak

I normally post on the MLC board, my husband is only 32. We have been seperated for 5 months now, and in the beginning it was so dificult. I could not stop myself from ananlysing everything he did. In the first few weeks i spent majority of the time crying because i knew that he was with OW. I also asked my husband not to bring my daughter around the OW and he said he would'nt, but of course i found out that he did. The reason i am telling you this is so you can prepare yourself for it. Your husband may not, he may respect the fact that it is too soon to be introducing OW to the children. I ended up telling my husband that he could have D2 in OW company because i got so sick of wondering whether he was doing it, and to be honest it does not bother me now. OW has chose a married man with a child, and so she needs to see what it really means to be with a man with baggage (if you know what i mean.).

As time as gone on i no longer obsess about husband being with OW, she is not worht my thought. I was giving her too much power by me thinking about her all the time. Now i just see it as, the more time they spend together the sooner thier relationship will die a natural death. My husband moved in with her a couple of weeks ago, and at the moment i am trying to look at that as a positve thing, because now they will get a real taste of reality, instead of living in fantasy land. They do say that most affairs do not last, so the more time they spend together the better.

Just make sure that you and the children are taken care of finacially as sometimes these men can spend a great deal. Make sure that you start getting a life (GAL) for you, dont tell your husband your every move, create some mystery. Let him wonder what is going on in your life. Make sure that you are upbeat and happy when ever your husband is around. It is good to cry and let emotions out, just not in front of your husband.

I hope that you can use your time away from your husband as an opportunity to become independent and do things that you have dreamed of. Most of all take care if your children, because they really need you now.

One last thing, the OW is not anything special, these men usually affair down, so she will not be your equal in anyway. Soon enough your husband will come to realise this.

Nicky