steph, my h said the same thing to me. he also said i don't want to give you any hope, i have already hurt you twice. he was afraid to hurt me again, afriad he couldn't fix us. i told him i was a grown woman and i would make decisions for me and he should make decisions for him. we should learn to take care of ourselves. i stayed his friend. very hard with a ow pulling on him. never allowed her to be an issue. i was honest about my feelings without being hurtful or punishing and took responsibility for my part in the problems we had. we are now 8 monthes back together. it is still hard work. but it gets better. lisa
