My H is the same way and his parents sound just like yours. Without specifics however, it is hard to determine if your wife's anger is typically justified or if she is just projecting her anger in general on your parents. Have you asked your W what she would like you to do? If she said she wanted you to walk away from your parents, could you? Perhaps you need to stand up to your folks and let them know what you expect with regard to their treatment of your W?
If my H had defended me to his bi-polar, prescription drug addicted mother years ago, things would have been much better between us and I would have had much more respect for my H.
Good luck!
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt. M-42, H-42. M-22yrs, together 27yrs, Sep 5yrs. D-22, S-18 I'm a survivor
