Thanks Cat and HF - your words are very inspiring.

Sometimes it is difficult to determine when and if you can forgive. I felt I had and then didn't - I never knew how to determine it but HF set it out quite clearly when she said "hate the action, not the person". I believe I have forgiven my H for what he did based on that description. I don't hate him by any stretch but I surely do hate the action he did.

Thank you both

Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)