When women approach, its because the guy is displaying certain attributes. I very very rarely initiate in a way that anyone observing could say... He approached her first. If I see something that piques my interest, I just put myself in proximity and 'turn on' a set of attributes. They are compelled to approach, and in their opinion, think they initiated. Once they do, then I immediately reassert, and seize ownership. They feel desire/protected/understood, not chased. Just like HP thinks she initiated. Her H may think she did too, but that doesnt make it so.
But... that's exactly what women do most of the time too. They 'turn on' a set of attributes and then wait for the man to approach. Obviously, there is always a dance of initiation and sometimes it is difficult to say who is taking the "lead". The first time that I approached my H (perhaps due to sensing signals he was putting out as you indicated) he pretty much flat out rejected me but in a nice way (Much to the amazement of the friend that was with him. I was pretty hot in those days.-LOL) It was no big deal to me at the time and I became friends with him. We didn't get together sexually until a couple years later when he started hanging out at the house I was living at. I assumed that he was hanging out in pursuit of me but he has told me that he was actually interested in the piano. So is he a liar or did I get my signals wrong? If he is a liar what possible benefit does this serve him in our relationship?
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