it doesn't feel like it but these are good signs. Telling him he isn't there for you is TRUE and if said politely simply forces him to face the situation he has created...I got that from a DB coach so nobody jump on me!!!
the calmer you stay the better you look. Do you think OW wants to share him? no, she'll run her mouth off eventually and won't you look good? Meanwhile don't demonize her, simply explain that this is an ADULT issue and it's not time to expose children to it yet...also DB coach quote...Don't do anything to put her down or he will feel the need to defend her "honor" (as though she had any!) Be neutral about her but pointed about your children and not causing a situation that could be really confusing for them in the long run! Good luck baby! Any time you hear "if I came back..." it means he's thinking about it. Listen to figure out what he's really thinking...then try to respond to that...it's not always his words ie: you said he was joking around therefore you joke too.
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
