You know, if it turns into some sort of a stand-off, and I actually have to start being "less invested" in completing the items on her list, it's going to be one of those "hard habits to break." I'll have to channel a tiny blackfoot to sit on my shoulder and say, "WTF? So the house is getting dusty. BFD. Don't you dare get out that dust rag. What? You're still planning on making a nice Sunday dinner for the two of you to enjoy after you put DD5 to bed? Don't you think you'd rather spend the afternoon doing something you WANT to do, and then open a can of chili, heat it in the microwave, and sit in front of the TV with a beer?"
I can so relate. My feeling on the matter is that all those things that you've learned to do because you are trying to be "better" in a difficult situation are things that you own. They represent your personal growth. Will you become "guy who doesn't fix nice dinner" in your next relationship just because you are getting laid? Keep doing all the things that you would do in a good relationship. Just stop doing all the things that you wouldn't do in a good relationship. Obviously this is completely a subjective, personal call.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
