Hope you have a great weekend with the kid's, and I'm sorry that H is so clueless and selfish right now.
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I didn't realize that you had made plans last night, as you didn't tell me.
That's kind of defensive. It's the kind of response that's just going to make him want to fight, defend himself.
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Had you asked, I would have told you not to count on my being home by 8. Since you are normally w/ the kids till 9:30 on Thursdays, I thought you would plan to stay with them until then anyway.
Ditto, that's also getting defensive, and a little petty.
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I could have been more transparent with my expectations, and now you know what they are.
Well, that's just borderline snotty.
I think you've got quite a bit of anger going because he's not where you want him to be. I think he's probably hanging on by a thread, and really does'nt want to loose you. You were out at an alumni function, single men present, and he's at home with the kid's. My gut tells me he had nothing going on, but just could'nt stand the thought of you conversing and having a good time out in public, so that's why he called you to come home. He probably did'nt want you to come to his place to pick up the DVD because he wants to save some face. Maybe he'd like you to believe he's got somebody else, or maybe his place is a mess. I think your anger just got you to jump to the conclusion that he was hiding OW.
All that said, I can totally understand your frustration, and your desire to meet other people. I don't know if I'd feel any different than you in the similar sitch. Maybe if your H could give you a little something to hang your hat on that he's changing, that he still has hope for your M, that he wants your M to work out. Well all I can say is that my W had no hope for our M, she gave me nothing to hang on for several years, and we were totally separate. But that's all changed, her heart has changed, and her feelings continue to change. Miracles do happen, but at the same time, I can understand your moving on.
God Bless,
COG
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