Great stuff piglet. Reading that really helped me today, and I suspect Mama as well.
Mama, sorry I have not been around much. It's as much because of the redesign as anything else. I can't tell what threads have new posts and which ones don't anymore. They used to show up clearly, now...well, I haven't figured it out yet.
Anyway, keep thinking about what piglet said because I think it's the key to your next step in all this, as it is mine, even though we're both in different places, sitch-wise.