Mojo is 42

[MJontheMend]

LFL - I do respect your input. However, as you may be aware I have often been the one giving others pretty much the exact same message that you are giving me in your post. I am not saying that you haven't successfully resolved your situation. I'm just saying that I haven't found "improving my attitude" to be a way to successfully resolve my situation. At least not yet. I feel like I've practically done every tantric-improving-my-attitude-exercise that there is and still I find myself back in a bad place in my marriage. I also understand what you're saying about this BB being a possible contributing factor to my bad attitude through negative reinforcement. However, I find that it has worked both ways for me. I've been on and off this BB since I've joined it and sometimes I come back when things have gotten better and sometimes I come back because they have gotten worse while I was gone. Overall, I think I have experienced personal growth vis a vis the BB because I no longer have bad reactions in response to the posts of LD spouses like I used to. I feel compassion for both sides of the picture. I think that both "bad" LD and HD behavior can be damaging to a relationship and I hope to avoid manifesting either in the future. (In spite of the fact that I am sort of manically swinging back and forth between the two in my above posts. AAARGH.)