I hear what you are saying, that is why I mentioned that I didn't think my W was ready for something like that (or more directly, our R is not ready for something like that).
I just gained some realization of my own, perhaps independant of the specific point you were trying to make, about how my sexuality could be overwhelming to her, and that letting her take control and see where it goes might be something worth exploring. I can see how that me leading EVERY TIME could cause her to never face her own sexuality, or in a more cynical POV, provide a back door for her to not have to face her sexuality. I can see how her not having to make decisions about what happens next could stifle her sexuality before it has a chance to get started. Kindof parallel to the notion that when you have to work at something, it gives it more personal value in the end.
But as I said, at this point in the R, my W deciding to take charge of her sexuality is remote. Well, unless you include supression as taking control. Baby steps.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
