Corri, Yup, I know it is something that takes a great deal of self confidence and feeling at ease with yourself and your mate. Part of it, I think, is getting comfortable enough with yourself to be willing to a) turn yourself on and b)carry enough heat to turn on your lover (not to mention turning on all us poor saps out here who are wishing their wives could find it within themselves as well ). I know darn well that there is only one person who can take down a particular wall, and I also know that there isn't a shot in Haides that even one brick is going to come off the wall until the person inside feels safe enough, and motivated enough to start peeking over the wall to see what else is out there. I'm trying hard to just foster that safe feeling, and failing miserably at it.

--GGB, getting really tired of pedalling around with these draggy noisy training wheels, but also tired of falling over every time he tries out the big-boy bike without the training wheels.