Me2; glad that anything I said was of help... I am still wrestling with my demons. While I have accepted that my divorce is inevitable (been separated over a year and paperwork submitted to the judge for entry and h has made no movement towards returning.. indeed seems more committed to OW than ever).. I still get really angry when I think about the kids ( ages 6 and 3). My son who is older has expressed to me his feelings and we talk but I though my daughter was ok..kind of insulated due to her age.. but the other night she woke up from a dream I guess and cried for Daddy.. I told her we could call him in Am and she said.. no.. mommy I want Daddy to live here.. I want daddy to come HOME.. big wail.. I told her she would see him soon.. etc.. and again she repeated the same thing.. she knew what she wanted and it wasn't this crappy this either Mommy or daddy stuff that he had inflicted on the kids... It broke my heart and what can I do.. this was not my choice either...that, in fact, is all I can tell the kids.. that I understand their pain.. that I feel bad too and that we need to be strong and move on... but OHHHHH why don't they give H a hard time/ With him they act like perfect children and don't tell him what they feel... Iasked my son one day when he complained to me to tell daddy.. and son said.. what's the point.. he doesn't listen to me about this stuff ... at least you listen! Boy I just felt so sad for son and sooo mad at H! His totally selfish and self fulfilling act (giving him some benefit of doubt here) is having such negative effect on his kids.. how can he claim to love them? People who have minor children should have to jump through total hoops to get a divorce.. it should be really hard for those with monors to be divorced.. maybe that would help get people focused on the effects on their kids!
