In all honestly, XW just wants to keep the power struggle going. She never calls, D calls her every once in a while and they talk for only minutes. D asked her why she doesn't come up here to visit and she replyed that she doesn't get the time to be with them that she would if they visit there. told her that last time she came up here,(for legal reasons) and took D out to dinner, I had only gave them 2 hours. She came on a school night and picked D up at 7pm. D usually goes to bed at 9. Thats why she had only 2 hours.
Still playing the blame game. I just want to move on.
This time, I'm sticking to my guns. I refuse to let her use these kids as pawns in her war of power. I have let her have her way too many times, only to cause more pain. She now needs to play by my rules. It cannot be her way all the time. It's still all about her.
I read how some of you are having little friendly conversations with your X's. working on little baby steps to become friends again. I wish someday I can have that. My XW and I such a close relationship where we use to finish each others sentences. We were each others best friends. Now, in her mind, Im the worst person who walked this earth. She blames me for not sharing with her the kids grades. She blames me for feeding spew into the minds of my D's to be against her. She blames me for countless other issue that goes wrong in her life. All I'm trying to do is deal with the situation I was dealt. Nothing more, nothing less. She has yet acknoleged her actions in this whole mess. Never admitted her faults. I know. time is of the essence.
Ive been in this mess for 18 months now. And it still feels fresh. X
