My take is what what she said is more blackfootian because she clearly doesn't think her H is out of her league. Ergo, author > her H. The other way seems almost placating...she's out of the author's league but not her H's.
LOL. I gotta tell you guy's that I honestly didn't think about it either way. I wasn't trying to achieve anything with what I said. Anyway, it occurs to me that my H is really just caught in his own trap. He doesn't want to link sex and love so when he didn't want to have sex with me, he thought the fact that I was moderately overweight was a good "reason". Now that I am less HD in the relationship, he is taking it as an ego-blow because he knows that my big objective turn-on would be intelligence in a man. This is totally irrational, however, because clearly his intelligence doesn't vary like my weight and if he was smart enough for me to find f*ckable 20 years ago, the same is still true today. Actually, now that I think about it, the fact that intelligence in a man is my objective turn-on is probably why I am so consistently HD. Any guy who could make me LD in that objective way makes me that way within the first two minutes of conversation.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
