I agree strongly with the advice that MrsNOP is giving. Though we would all like to give credit to NOP for his success just because he is so NOP-like, I think that MrsNOP has said on more than one occasion that the fact that she read what he posted here had a huge effect on her. It can't get much more in-your-face radically honest than that.
If anyone of us was brave enough to print out what we post here each day and put it in front of our spouse, we wouldn't be in the situations that we are in (one way or another-LOL). I don't mean to imply that this BB is the problem. If we weren't posting here we'd still be having negative internal dialogues or b*tching to our friends or depending on our therapists etc.
Actually, I was wrong to use the adjective "brave" to describe what is necessary to achieve intimacy. That's part of it but there's something more needed. I could summon up the nerve to once again suggest to my H that he join this BB but........
....anyway that's my problem. Your problem at the moment is summoning up the nerve. Actually, asking her to join this BB wouldn't be the worst move you could make. You could just send her an e-mail with a link. It would all be over real quick-like pulling off a bandage or pressing the button to start the nuclear war.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
