I’ve been in that position and what I do remember at the time was the subtle yet clear intent of the woman to be in control, to take me to the edge, back me off, drive me wild, in almost a sadistic (but nice) way. It was in many ways a power trip for her.
Good intuiting. That is why women who like giving BJs like giving BJs. It is what Schnarch is talking about when he uses the phrase "doing" someone. I think the "control" or the "teasing" aspect is the difference between "doing" someone or "f*cking" someone. If Corri had described a scene in which she "f*cked her BF's brains out", it would have been equally hot but the psychological vibe would have been different. Rather than being sexually assertive but "in control", she would have been sexually assertive but "out of control". Another way of describing it would be to say "I went crazy on him.". The woman is on top, though perhaps not literally, but her own desire has taken her out of control. OTOH, if Corri had described a scene in which she "made love" to her passive BF, it would probably be erotic but it might make you want to cry too.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
