As a true believer, I must look at my sitch the last two weeks and ask "what is different?" What I've noticed, since I had that little talk about going for m counselling with my W, is her demeaner is much gentler, she seems more patient and seems to think before addressing issues with me. I've noticed that when little things go wrong (as they always will day to day life) she hasn't been slamming things around, sighing heavily or making snarky comments (D13 still gets a few though).I feel like I'm walking less on eggshells. I actually feel that once in a while I can actually talk a bit about my day or a humorous event and get some response. On the whole, she seems happier. On only one occassion did the "poor me" stuff start to rear its ugly head but after she let out a few verbal lashes she pulled it together and got back in the game. Why is this happening? I don't know but it started right after our talk when I told her that I was not happy living this way and it could not go on endlessly, something had to be resolved. I've also not been physical with her (no hugs, no goodbye kisses) and I've concentrated more on me and my day to day activities. I don't rush to rescue her if she's struggling with something. I leave her be and keep my mood positive. Maybe she's thinking if she makes things a little nicer around here I will be less inclined to take a walk, who knows. In the past she has taken on more responsibility, just as last week she took on running the kids around on Friday night, and it usually results in resentment and lashing out after a short period. I haven't sensed that on the horizon this time though. She even addressed the issue of my activity schedule in a quite appropriate way ("You can still do whatever you want...")which resulted in me giving her what she wanted because she treated me with respect and made some sense. So, these are just some observations, what they mean nobody knows. I guess it's been pretty good lately, that's all I know. So, if it works, keep doing it!
