I'm going away for the weekend w/ the kids to winter carnival. We've never been and I think it will be fun.

H was here with the kids tonight while I went out to an alumni party. I said I'd be home "around 8," but I was having fun and stayed on. He called me at 8:30 to find out where I was, and told me he'd made plans. He must have done that after I left, as he's normally w/ the kids till 9:30 and would have had no way of knowing I'd be back at 8. I came home at 9:15 and said I hadn't expected him to make plans on his night w/ the kids. ARGH! I was with my brother, actually, and he advised me that I was under no obligation to rush home or feel guilty, since H hadn't even told me he'd made this plans. What a jerk. ( H, I mean.) Here is the email I sent him just now:

Hi

I expect to be back at 5 on Sunday. Would you like me to drop off the kids with you at that time or bring them home?

I didn't realize that you had made plans last night, as you didn't tell me. Had you asked, I would have told you not to count on my being home by 8. Since you are normally w/ the kids till 9:30 on Thursdays, I thought you would plan to stay with them until then anyway. I could have been more transparent with my expectations, and now you know what they are.

Have a good weekend. My parents have the contact info if you need it.

~ Nicola

I think it sounds clear, but not mean. Anyway, I met some nice guys tonight, one in particular who wants to get a group together to go out. He remembered me from 20 yrs ago! Just meeting nice guys reminds me that I don't have to put up with this rubbish.

Plus, H was going to lend me his car DVD player, but he refused to let me pick it up at his place! He said he'll bring it by tomorrow morning. He's probably got some ow stashed away at his place.

Anyhow, I'm looking forward to my little getaway, and I hope you all have a great weekend.

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