wow, MrsNOP, that really rings true. I would add that Ms. Assertive does not initially want a leader type male...she doesn't want to feel controlled, and wants things to be her way, without having much resistance. She doesn't understand that the resistance is there, it's just passive in nature. It becomes tiring and, over time, to live with the covert resentment, and she becomes attacking...or, if drained too much, depressed. She is ready for the man to take over the reigns, but he's got his own fears and issues which he hasn't addressed.
