Just wanted to say that I did find enlightenment in your post detailing your sexual encounter with your bf. Being a "leading" man had meant being assertive in the bedroom. I had not envisioned that being "passive" could allow the LD woman a chance to explore her sexuality and get ramped-up. My W does complain that I sometimes "jump all over her" at the slightest provocation, which I can see causing her to lose her sexual expression in the face of my overwhelming desire.
On the other hand, my W doesn't have the sexual maturity that you do, and I am doubtful that at this point in the game she would have the initiative or even thought to do what you did. But perhaps in the future a light bulb will turn on when another turns off. Thanks for the lesson.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
