TTH, You seem to be working from a position of strength. You say that he panicked, when he realized that D was looming on the horizon, and that you were prepared for it. I think he knows that boundaries will be set.
I see what you mean about the loophole. I don't see what difference it makes whether or not the items are returned. Why does he have to wait to have NC?
It sounds like you're confident the OP relationship is terminating. He certainly is pushing his luck if he continues to have contact with her.
It sounds like your tolerance level for consistent OP contact is low. It sounds like he better get to work with this counselor, or he's going to lose a M. You've had it with his affair-type behaviors.
You may be working on defining clear boundaries, but it's CLEAR that there will be swift and severe consequences if they are crossed. No contact versus a few more contacts at this point is probably not of great significance. He's running out of time.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
