I'm doing okay. W came through surgery okay. She's been in pain since but I got to keep the kids a few extra days and that helped her a bit. They cleaned the tumor out and didn't find anything cancerous so she should be good to go once the cut heels. As far as the R goes, I've let it go. I've decided that I can't dwell on it any more. If she comes back she comes back. If not, I'm not going to spend my life hoping. Thanks for checking on me. I'll update if anything changes.